Midwestern Man is now my husband. We met in April 2008 in the café where he works. I would go in there some mornings after going to the gym to write in my journal. I noticed straight away that he was handsome (lovely, dark curly hair and olive skin…just how I like ‘em) but he was very aloof and unfriendly, so I thought he was a dick. He thought I was a bitch because he claims I treated him like a servant when he brought me my food one morning (not true! I was just on my cell phone, and couldn’t hang up, as it was an important call).
We eventually got over our dislike of each other, and had a nice little chat one day. The next day we bumped into each other in a local supermarket, chatted for four hours…and, well, the rest is history.
We got married in April 2009 in a little town in the middle of the desert!
We wouldn’t have got married so quickly if my visa hadn’t been about to run out but I don’t regret what we did.
We’re both still learning how to be in a committed, loving relationship (me especially), so stay tuned to see what happens!
Judith said,
September 10, 2009 at 7:44 pm
OMG! You got married! How lovely! I’m so excited for you!
*sniff* You’ve got me all weepy and I don’t do that sort of thing. This is marvelous news.
petrichoric said,
September 11, 2009 at 12:52 am
Well, don’t get too excited. I just posted the most negative post about him and our marriage!
sandy, phd said,
September 10, 2009 at 9:33 pm
I’m laughing. When I first met my husband (blind date, or encounter is a better word for it) I thought he was arrogant and talked too much. He thought I was an unfriendly bitch. 15+ years later we’re still going strong, so I’d say you and Medwestern Man have got a recipe for success : )
petrichoric said,
September 11, 2009 at 12:55 am
I have found that if I dislike somebody a lot, it probably means that I’m attracted to them on some unconscious level. When I was twenty-three, I used to despise my flatmate’s friend, Billy, as I thought he was a pretentious little dick. He thought I was a bossy control freak, and he was scared of me! That summer we somehow ended up having a fling, and now we’re really good friends. He really is a pretentious little dick, but he’s so dear to me despite that!
pandabox33 said,
September 16, 2009 at 6:13 am
I was wondering who that man was…Midwestern Man. Marlboro Cowboy. You see why I needed to verify.
I have found that too (that if I strongly dislike someone, I am attracted). It also meant to me that the person could make me repeat patterns so I stay clear from them. But since I’m a bit of a Thomas, I wanted to verify for myself my little theory and I dated a guy I have always been severely engaged in a match to the finish with. WELL. He’s an asshole so I have proven my theory to myself.
petrichoric said,
September 17, 2009 at 2:38 am
Ha, Midwestern Man is definitely not a cowboy! No cowboys for me! I always liked the idea of a cowboy until I moved somewhere where there are a lot of fake cowboys.
Yes, I have also found that a strong attraction/dislike can mean that I am attracted to someone for all the wrong reasons.