Who was Midwestern Man (or “MM”)?

UPDATE:  September 2012. Midwestern Man and I are no longer together. We broke up about six weeks ago. It was for the best. So, sadly, none of what comes next applies anymore. We are just not compatible at all, and the relationship had been crap for a long time. We should have broken up years ago…


Midwestern Man is now my husband. We met in April 2008 in the café where he works. I would go in there some mornings after going to the gym to write in my journal. I noticed straight away that he was handsome (lovely, dark curly hair and olive skin…just how I like ’em) but he was very aloof and unfriendly, so I thought he was a dick. He thought I was a bitch because he claims I treated him like a servant when he brought me my food one morning (not true! I was just on my cell phone, and couldn’t hang up, as it was an important call).

We eventually got over our dislike of each other, and had a nice little chat one day. The next day we bumped into each other in a local supermarket, chatted for four hours…and, well, the rest is history.

We got married in April 2009 in a little town in the middle of the desert!

We wouldn’t have got married so quickly if my visa hadn’t been about to run out but I don’t regret what we did.

We’re both still learning how to be in a committed, loving relationship (me especially), so stay tuned to see what happens!


6 thoughts on “Who was Midwestern Man (or “MM”)?

  1. Judith September 10, 2009 at 7:44 pm Reply

    OMG! You got married! How lovely! I’m so excited for you!

    *sniff* You’ve got me all weepy and I don’t do that sort of thing. This is marvelous news.

    • petrichoric September 11, 2009 at 12:52 am Reply

      Well, don’t get too excited. I just posted the most negative post about him and our marriage!

  2. sandy, phd September 10, 2009 at 9:33 pm Reply

    I’m laughing. When I first met my husband (blind date, or encounter is a better word for it) I thought he was arrogant and talked too much. He thought I was an unfriendly bitch. 15+ years later we’re still going strong, so I’d say you and Medwestern Man have got a recipe for success : )

  3. petrichoric September 11, 2009 at 12:55 am Reply

    I have found that if I dislike somebody a lot, it probably means that I’m attracted to them on some unconscious level. When I was twenty-three, I used to despise my flatmate’s friend, Billy, as I thought he was a pretentious little dick. He thought I was a bossy control freak, and he was scared of me! That summer we somehow ended up having a fling, and now we’re really good friends. He really is a pretentious little dick, but he’s so dear to me despite that!

  4. pandabox33 September 16, 2009 at 6:13 am Reply

    I was wondering who that man was…Midwestern Man. Marlboro Cowboy. You see why I needed to verify.

    I have found that too (that if I strongly dislike someone, I am attracted). It also meant to me that the person could make me repeat patterns so I stay clear from them. But since I’m a bit of a Thomas, I wanted to verify for myself my little theory and I dated a guy I have always been severely engaged in a match to the finish with. WELL. He’s an asshole so I have proven my theory to myself.

    • petrichoric September 17, 2009 at 2:38 am Reply

      Ha, Midwestern Man is definitely not a cowboy! No cowboys for me! I always liked the idea of a cowboy until I moved somewhere where there are a lot of fake cowboys.

      Yes, I have also found that a strong attraction/dislike can mean that I am attracted to someone for all the wrong reasons.

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